Sexual Assault and Alcohol

Sexual Assault and Alcohol: Stop Focusing On The Victim’s Drinking

Sexual Assault and AlcoholRecently, the link between alcohol and sexual assault has received a lot of press particularly as college campuses are attempting to address rape. Most people quote 50% of all sexual assaults involve alcohol although I’ve seen 35-75% in studies over the last quarter century.

Alcohol’s link to sexual assault is often taken as an example of how women are making themselves more vulnerable to sexual assault, and maybe women just shouldn’t drink so they can be safer. However, the same percentage of victims, who drank and were raped, is the same as number of perpetrators who drank before committing a sexual assault — 35-75%. In fact, most perpetrators of sexual assault are heavy drinkers even if they aren’t drinking at the time of the assault.

Some people respond, “Well then neither of them knew what they were doing.”

So if a person get punched in the face by a drunk man or a child gets killed in a car crash with a drunk driver, it’s okay because the person drank? If a house gets robbed by a drunk man on a night the owner is drunk, the owner can’t ask for the robber to prosecuted? In fact, it’s okay for the thief to spend the next 3 months showing off his conquest by sporting the owner’s stolen goods?
Of course not, but when it comes to sex, women are seen as automatically saying yes unless they are screaming no (and sometimes even then). Women have to protect themselves when it comes to rape, but everyone else in every other situation, can count on support? Maybe even disgust that they were robbed by an addict? Or killed by a drunk driver?

Now men reply, “Not all men.” (Or they tweet #NotAllMen)

And it’s true. 95% of men don’t rape women whether the man is drunk or sober. Even the percentage of heavy drinkers in our population is higher than the estimated 5% of men who commit rape. This makes alcohol as a direct cause of sexual assault seem pretty unlikely. It also isn’t the cause for women because in 25-65% of sexual assaults, a woman is sober, and the number of women who are heavy drinkers is much lower than the number of women who will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime.

So why is heavy drinking, or drinking at all, associated with sexual assault? Well, heavy drinking by a rapist could be because they have the urge to sexually assault and being drunk gives them an excuse and the disinhibition for a socially unacceptable behavior and rationalization. Or it could be merely situational — the opportunity to commit sexual assault is more available in drinking locations like bars and parties. Or they are able to blend in at some fraternities and other groups, which encourages both heavy drinking and the exploitation of women.

Yet college campuses warn women about the “red zone” when sexual assaults are highest (the belief was it is the first few months of our first year in college but it actually depends on the college schedules and the upticks in partying). If we are going to worry about how much people are drinking, shouldn’t we be focused on the people who cause the crime? Why are they not warning men about not drinking? Why are they not saying, “A percentage of you will rape a woman when you drink so don’t drink”? Shouldn’t we be telling men that they shouldn’t drink because they are dangerous when they do? Men are more likely to perpetrate a crime will drinking — it’s not just sexual assault. Robberies, drunk driving, physical assaults, and domestic violence are all increased when men drink.

Does it seem ridiculous to tell 100% of men to not drink to try to stop the 5% of men who will sexually assault woman after woman? Even if those men are causing terrible harm to 20-25% of all women. Would these “Not All Men” be willing to make this sacrifice? Maybe we could narrow down the possible suspects by seeing who wasn’t willing to stop drinking. Well, what if we knew more about those perpetrators?

The profile doesn’t just stop with heavy drinking. Male perpetrators have other characteristics in common such as devaluing women, feeling like women are always leading them on, and they are more likely to believe women secretly like forced sex. These men are more likely to commit sexual assault if they live in an area where it often goes unpunished. Interestingly, female victim don’t have overlap in any area except a higher percentage  of sexual assault victims were victims of childhood abuse. Childhood abuse being another crime that is severely ignored, underreported and under-prosecuted. (Studies speculate that a coping method of childhood trauma is often heavy drinking and putting oneself in more risky sexual situations.) But other than that one area, we can’t describe what type of woman will get raped although we can describe what type of man is more likely to rape her.

We can say that the tall, good-looking, straight-A student, who take a few shots, tells everyone that he’s going to get laid and she’s going to love it, and two minutes later hands a fellow college student a drink with a wink to his friends, is probably using alcohol like it’s more media-popular cousin, roofies. Studies have shown that over a third of men report their friends approving of getting a woman drunk to have sex.

“Ah-ha,” people say. “That statistic may make part of this profile of a perpetrator a problem since more men think it’s okay to get a woman drunk for sex than rape women.”

But what if the 65% of men, whose friends don’t approve of getting women drunk for sex, spoke up? The idea it would become less acceptable much like how drunk driving went from something that happened sometimes and “go sleep it off” to a shunned decision both by neighbors and the police with designated drivers being people we salute. I’m not suggesting an actual battalion of thought police but peer pressure works. Perhaps it would become more obvious who was the rapist among friends just as drunk driving often speaks to a more serious drinking problem whether the person is caught or not.

Sexual assault is a complicated crime if only in how underreported and under-prosecuted it is coupled with our disparate attitudes towards men, drinking and sex versus women, drinking and sex. However, prevention clearly begins with isolating the perpetrators of sexual assault through working on attitudes around women, reducing drinking culture, and punish offenders rather than demanding the victims lock themselves alone and sober in their homes and dormitories.

Research (please note that some of the research I included disagreed with others I’ve included — I chose the more scientifically based answer in those cases):

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A Winkle in Time graphic novel

Free Comic Books For Everyone Not Just The Guy Dressed Like Spawn

Saturday, May 3 is Free Comic Book Day, and my family will be heading to Velocity Comics to celebrate FREE! and COMIC BOOK! This is why…

I have a strange relationship with comic books. It’s similar to my sorted past with sci-fi/fantasy books, television and movies. I like what I like (Star Wars books, Star Trek and Spawn television series, almost every movie with an Avenger), but I am not married to any canon or author or artist or producer. I have huge gaps in my knowledge base even if my bookshelves rock (or don’t. I have no idea):

Watchmen & Superman
Do I dare point out I read Watchmen long before the movie? Of course, I do!
A Winkle in Time graphic novel
My husband pre-ordered this graphic novel version for me, and my son and I both loved it.
Sandman Series
Neil Gaiman’s Sandman series is so dear to my heart that I can’t even let friends borrow them.

I love the people and places and art which comics have introduced into my world, but I’ve wondered if I belong in a comic book store. Will I wander around aimlessly and ignored? Will my questions be mocked? Will I buy something I hate because the artist can’t even draw boobs right? I already know I could never go head-to-head with a comic book aficionado, but I would appreciate his recommendations without condescension. (I’m thinking of start the Constantine series. What do you think?)

So I’ve mostly avoided comic book stores unless I had a very specific comic to find or (later on in the Internet world) I couldn’t buy online. However, my 7-year-old son shares my love of graphic novels and comics, and I’m softly encouraging my 5-year-old daughter to do the same. But I feel even more ill-equipped to help them find age-appropriate comics that won’t disappoint. We’ve gotten a few from the library and my son read a few off my shelf (I think he’s read every one of my Calvin and Hobbes books and I own them all), but I want my children to feel like a comic book store is their stomping ground, too, no matter what questions they have or series they love.

Comic books changed the way I saw the world by introducing me to characters and plot lines which gave voice and beauty to my confusion and struggles as a teenager and young adult. They continue to make me think and discuss and think again on who I am, what the world is like and what it should be like. I want everyone, whether they’ve read their parent’s extensive comic book collection or only enjoy Superman movies, to experience the wonder and shock which only a comic book can offer.

Velocity Comics Logo

This year Velocity Comics Free Comic Book Event isn’t geared towards the usual 18-44 male that I envision yelling at me for not understanding Batman. They are focusing on younger readers and embracing the expanding all-ages (and all-sexes) market. So many cool kids comics will be available from Hello Kitty! to Avatar: The Last Airbender and more.

WHEN: Saturday May 3rd from 10am to 7pm
WHERE: 819 W. Broad St., Richmond, VA 23220

So bring the family and expand your world.

PS. It should be noted that no one has ever yelled at me about Batman, but I’m sure they’re waiting in a dark alley to strike.

PPS. If you don’t live in Richmond, find out where in your town free comic books are waiting by click here.

Disclaimer: Velocity Comics reached out to me about their event probably because I’m cool, and I was happy to partner with them because I love the genre. Although they did imply if I was paid, it would be comic books, I wrote this hoping to encourage a new generation of young readers, and some hesitant adults, into this amazing world of stories and art.

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