Thanks a lot Fancy Nancy

Are You A Good Mom? Checklist

A version of this piece posted on in April, but I love it so much that I’m giving it an update and second showing because I could use the reminder.

Who hasn’t struggled with the thoughts and worries of motherhood culminating in the ever-present phrase: Am I a good mom?

How do we know we are doing it right? Whatever “it” is or isn’t or will be after newest research comes out.

In being the helpful person that I am, I created a simple checklist to help us moms (and dads) know once and for all.


If you answered yes to 4 of these questions, you are probably fine, but you could pick a 5th and do it to officially be in the club.

Thanks a lot Fancy Nancy
Me as Fancy Nancy thanks to my daughter. Now we’re all in!

The good moms have a secret handshake — actually it’s more of a high-five with our right hand while doing the Heimlich Maneuver in our left arm and continuing to steer a grocery cart with a foot and knee combo.

It’s almost as awesome as most moms are.

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

27 thoughts to “Are You A Good Mom? Checklist”

  1. This is simply awesome! Seriously, you nailed it sister. We are all just doing the best we can and it is better than average…and according to this checklist, it may just be an A+ performance! 🙂

  2. This is a terrific list. It reminds me not to take myself so seriously…especially when I am clapping because my child blinks, which I am most certain I have actually done before.

  3. Thanks for the checklist 🙂 We’re expect in March 2013. Complete surprise at our ages and when the doctor said we’d never get pregnant. Anyway, good to know there’s a checklist 🙂 I’ll keep that handy!

  4. Oh my gosh, I laughed so hard at the one about clapping when they blink!!! HA HA HA HA!!!

    According to this list, I am like THE best mom EVAH!!!

    So cute and fun! Thanks for the laughs. 😀

  5. Since I started reading your blog – I have basically used it as a daily affirmation in my current role as a semi-competent SAH(MD). And now I am conflicted to find out that I am actually the awesomest mom ever. I should probably become a blogger and start writing an awesome parenting guide… Oh wait – I’m also the laziest mom ever. Darnit.

    BTW – did you see this article in the NYT?

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  7. Aww, thanks so much for this. I feel a ton better. I had to read the part about Cheerios and napkins in my purse aloud to Jack because I am 100% sure that both of those things are in my purse. And matchbox cars. There are ALWAYS matchbox cars, no matter how many times I try to purge them…

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