My Daughter Likes Us To Wear Matching Clothes

My daughter likes us to match.

N insisted we both wear blue-stripped dresses I SWEAR.

She gets visibly upset and considering change her clothes when she learns that I do not also own an ice cream cone shirt or a pink tutu.

I don't even have the hat.
A girl can never have too many tutus. But a mom can. TRUST ME.

While I both love how much she looks up to me and find it unnerving to be the center of her fashionable and impressionable world, I turned an awkward corner a few weeks ago.

Scott calls: What size are you?

Me: What? Why?

Scott: N and I found matching dresses. Well, for you and her. They are on super sale so can I get them?

Me: Um, sure.


I didn’t try it on at first, but N came home in hers and looked adorable. I glanced at my version from time-to-time and I even reminded my daughter of our TOTALLY MATCHING DRESSES and she shrugged. Secretly, I was relieved, but finally last night I tried it on. It fits, but I couldn’t bring myself to wear it. I already want to wear a sign:

A My Daughter Made Me Match Her sign would save me a lot of talking some days.

Although if the dresses lead to this, it’s probably worth it.

PS. But seriously, the exact same dress means we can’t leave the house, right?

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

24 thoughts to “My Daughter Likes Us To Wear Matching Clothes”

  1. And just one more reason why I love having a son.
    Although for some strange star alignment we do end up wearing coordinating colours. I won’t notice it until a stranger says “Hey are you going to get family photos today? Great coordination”…so then I feel like an asshole.

  2. It’s a pretty cute dress regardless. Just hope that your daughter’s taste stays just as kickass, or you could be in for a looooong day at the office in your Dora t-shirt.

  3. You guys look ADORABLE! I would only be embarrassed to leave the house if the matching outfits were ice cream cone shirts. The dresses are definitely acceptable. And I agree with Megan that you shouldn’t dis tutus for grown-ups.

  4. I loved wearing matching dresses when my daughter was small. But we only had one set. And I picked it out. The dresses don’t fit either of us anymore.

    I think the sign is a nice idea, though.

  5. Coordinated? Adorable. Exact same? That might veer into over the top. Because as cute as my kids’ clothes are, I can’t imagine them looking good on a 30 something year old woman.

    And you don’t have an ice cream shirt? What’s wrong with you?

  6. Y’all look cute.

    My daughter is eight, and she would still love to match me all the time. But we have never actually bought matching dresses, probably only because she has never seen them in the store. She has to accept the occasional coordinating colors.

  7. I knew a lady who sewed matching outfits for her and her daughter. It was the 80’s so they were hideous and she did this willingly and AT PLACES SHE KNEW PEOPLE WOULD TAKE PICTURES!!!!!!!

  8. Personally, I think you two look adorable.

    I just dyed my hair red because Elizabeth wanted to have the same hair so badly. She’d hold up a lock of my hair and frown. I’m assuming it was over the color rather than the split ends. Though now that I think of it…

    I keep meaning to find something somewhat matchy, but I really don’t look good in tutus.

  9. How cute!!

    But, reminds me why I’m glad I have only boys. On occasion, we coordinate, but obviously, we can’t match exactly!!

    Though, if I had a daughter, I think it might be fun to run around the house/backyard and have like that!!

  10. You two are too gorgeous for people NOT to stare when you go out no matter what you wear. I know I would. I might also try to take N home with me.

    Oh, and does she have another pair of Crocs? Because Carter says they’re best when you wear a different color on each foot, and you know what a fashion maven HE is.

  11. Years ago I got to be an honorary bridesmaid. They needed a male opinion and I can hold hangered dress for a long, long time. We settled on a royal blue palate and they got me a matching shirt. Sooooo….S and E need striped shirts. Raising a daughter has many challenges. I did not know that the diaper bag needed to match the outfit. As thing have progressed we have a new family phrase. “Suffer for fashion”. It’s really the truth. I am constantly amazed at the pain women go through to wear things.

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