Mr and Mrs photo

Happy Eight Year Anniversary, Scott

Eight years ago today, I was getting my hair done and trying to standing still while my bridesmaids buttoned up my wedding dress and zipped up my white leather go-go boots.

wedding day mirror photo
Long veil, pearls, elegant dress checkcheckcheck

boots under wedding dress photo
White go-go boots to keep from taking myself too seriously, check.

I did not know, when I walked down the aisle, the person I could be.

I did not understand that my heart would have the good sense to love Scott more with each passing year.

I did not know that, for every painful moment we faced, there would be thousands of soft touches and big smiles to soften them.

I did not understand how much laughter there would be.

I did not believe someone could love my quirks as much as my strengths.

I did not believe that I could do the same for him.

I know true love is often scoffed upon, but Scott is my person.  I would not be willing to try so hard and fall so short and love so much without Scott being Scott.

We dated for 7 months and were engaged for 7 more before becoming Mr. and Mrs. Iwashyna on November 22, 2003 surrounded by so many people who loved us and a few people who had no idea who we were.

Mr and Mrs photo
I could not get the goofy grin off my face the entire evening.

But even before the engagement, while I was still dating Scott, a wise friend told me: If you really love him, you will put his greatest spiritual growth first — even if that does not include you. 

And although I’m very grateful that his life does include me, I think she laid down a fundamental framework for our marriage.  Our marriage isn’t about being 50/50. We don’t have the energy to keep score.  Our marriage is about giving one another the grace to be human and the challenge to be the best human we can be.

I love you, Scott. Happy 8 years.

forehead photo
mind meld

To blave.  What is more nobler than that?

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

37 thoughts to “Happy Eight Year Anniversary, Scott”

  1. Happy anniversary, Alex and Scott! You make a beautiful couple. 🙂 We hit 11 years last month and I think you summed up my marriage with this quote, too: “Our marriage is about giving one another the grace to be human and the challenge to be the best human we can be.” Here’s to many more years of happiness! Cheers!

  2. Has it been 8 years? Seems like a life-time ago…
    So happy for you both! HOpe you have a fabulous thanksgiving and will try to catch up soon!

  3. Everything about this is beautiful, except for those go-go boots which are ridiculously sexy. Did he know you were wearing them?

  4. Aww, you look so beautiful and happy, and I’m so glad you still are! 🙂 You guys are so adorable. I look up to your marriage and hope one day I have one like it. Have a wonderful anniversary.

  5. Happy anniversary, you crazy kids! Why did I just sound like Great Aunt Harriet? Or maybe Uncle George. Except he had a cigar.

    Good God. Ignore me and go celebrate. I need to wake my brain up before I comment further.

  6. Beautiful tribute to a beautiful couple. And man, you looked absolutely radiant! And like many other things we have in common, a penchant for cold weather weddings seems to be among them, as Rod and I were married just 3 weeks after you on December 13, 2003. Happy, happy anniversary to you both. Hope you are spending it doing something fun and are giving the dried-marker revival a rest!

    PS – one of my favorite things about this post is the fact that it has the tag “go-go boots helps”. Love it.

  7. I remember when you got engaged and I thought… wow, that was pretty fast but they’re a great couple so I guess it isn’t a big deal. About 1 month into dating Matt I knew he was the one so I guess seven months isn’t so fast afterall, huh?

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