Siblings (updated)

I know that it’s taboo to say that I had a second child to give my first one a sibling.

It wasn’t the only reason, but it was a part of it.  I love having a sister, and I wanted to give that to E.

Feel free to judge me.

I don’t care because I catch moment like this.

And all I feel is joy.

I love having both of them in my life, but I may love them having each other just a little bit more.

Update: In response to the “Why would it be taboo?” questions/comments: I’ve read on a lot of forums and blog that having another child to give your first a sibling is a “terrible reason” and will “clearly” lead to horrible things. Like love. Or locking in closets. It’s hard to tell on those forums.

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on LateEnough.com, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

23 thoughts on “Siblings (updated)

  1. That’s one of the best things about having twins, although the first 6 months you pretty much want to kill yourself. But when we had #3, I was glad that they had each other for those times I couldn’t focus on them.

  2. Back in the day I was loosely attached to having more than one child, but now seeing how Ezra and Iris love each other and just freaking light up when they see one another? It makes my heart literally Hurt; that love and happiness is just so tangible between them.

  3. Granted, now that the boys are older, there’s plenty of bickering and blaming, but sometimes that love still shines through. Especially when they decide to join forces and gang up against us. Usually for ice cream.

  4. I don’t think that’s taboo. Really, the only reason we are thinking of trying to have a child/adopting again is so Meg will have a co-pilot through life.

  5. Being an Only Child, I claim no insight on siblings. It’s like science fiction to me. Timm exists so that Brian wouldn’t be an only child. I knew I didn’t what to inflict my child with the Only status.

  6. Is it taboo? Cuz that’s why we want to have 2. I would like to avoid having another newborn and the stress of 2 kids – but not enough to trump the relationship and developmental perks of siblings.

  7. In response to the “why would it be taboo” questions/comments: I’ve read on a lot of forums and blog that having another child to give your first a sibling is a “terrible reason” and will “clearly” lead to horrible things. Like love. Or locking in closets. It’s hard to tell on those forums.

  8. So when baby one is asking for a sibling — as I hear happens quite frequently — you’re supposed to. . . what, tell them “I can’t because some people for whatever reason think it’s taboo”?

    Makes absolutely no sense if you ask me.
    Especially if your family has a history of close and loving siblings, that’s probably the best gift you can give your child. (In my family? Totally different story.)

    I just loved seeing this post. What a wonderful relationship brother and sister share. ♥

  9. I never knew it was taboo at all. That is a huge reason why we are getting ready to try again. Siblings are great. It could be worse, You could be saying you wanted another tax right off.

  10. Boy I must say that I’ve never heard that it was taboo to have a sibling for your other one. Weird. I have three. Which means there is always an odd man out – and a huge age difference to boot. Hopefully they’ll be friends but right now, unless they’re playing video games together, they mostly annoy each other. And make me insane.

  11. That is one of the biggest reasons we are having number two. I suppose it would be a bad idea if that were the ONLY reason… like having another child just to keep the other one occupied?…But not really having the stability or emotional resources to raise another? Dunno….
    I can’t wait to see our siblings in action!

  12. I want multiple children so they can entertain each other… because I’m pretty sure I’m gonna be a lazy parent. And also so they can be friends and have each other. I don’t think you’re weird at all for wanting that.

    What REALLY bothers me is when people say they are having another kid so the first one isn’t selfish, or because being an only child must be so horrible. I am an only child and I turned out ok!

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