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So what do you do with your kids when you’re writing? [I mean besides letting them play with knives and run in the street when the TV isn’t on.]
I write 6 days a week. On a good day, I come up with an idea, write it down, edit, format, find pictures and post it in 2.5 hours. Don’t ask me about the bad days. Okay, fine. On a bad day, it can be a 4 hour endeavor with much wringing of the hands and lamenting.
I usually have 6-9 pieces due every week.
I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old.
My children overlap in their schooling 3 mornings a week from 9-12. Which translates to writing 9:15-11:45 if I write near school and take no bathroom break.
My husband gives me 8 hours per week to write while he takes the kids. He works 4 days per week most weeks so I take 5 hours on his weekday off and 3 hours on the weekend.
So that’s 15.5 hours if I don’t eat, pick up the phone or sneeze. My children have a bedtime of 7:30 p.m., and I usually have 3 evening a week free, and if I want to get to sleep on time, I have to finish by 10 p.m.. I never finish at 10 p.m.. Also, if I don’t want to lose my mind, I need at least 1 of those nights to stare at the wall.
That’s another 4-6 hours +/- wall-staring.
I also run the This Blogger Makes Fun of Stuff website and part of the social media, help out at the Blogger Body Calendar, facilitate the Nobody Told Me Mom’s group and its social media through Commonwealth Parenting, and teach the Art of Blogging at the Visual Arts Center each semester for 8 weeks. I also tutor in WordPress, field pitches from companies, pitch to companies and the like.
Basically, I work my butt off, I’m always behind, and I pray everyday that God will remove in me the need to sleep.
I don’t use television or any trick to be able to write while my children are awake and in my care. To be able to cook dinner, answer a phone call, or respond to an email or three? Yes. But for some reason, I can’t schedule writing time when I’m the only person home with them. Maybe because I didn’t go to medical residency to be home with my children. Mostly it’s because, once I start writing, I can’t be interrupted without wanted to kick the interrupter. And I don’t like kicking kids. (Disclaimer: I’ve never kicked my kids. This is a metaphor that could be taken literally by idiots.)
This lack of time and ability to write without specifically carved out time is also why I am rearranging my projects. I can’t be the mom, wife, friend and writer that I wanted to be and do all this in 20 hours. And in any free minutes, I’d rather write than anything else.
So… I went from content manager at Blogger Body Calendar to co-creator, adviser, jump-in-when-needed person. I am stepping down after as the facilitator and social media person for the Nobody Told Me mom’s group that I created. I will be there April 26th and again May 24th, but after that I will be handing the class over to the capable hands of the Commonwealth Parenting educators.
These decisions were difficult and uncomfortable but painfully obvious. Even before I did the math for this piece.
What I do with my kids when I’m writing? I say no to amazing projects so I don’t have to do anything but play with my kids when they’re home. I may be able to squeeze some work on a quiet afternoon here and there, but I don’t want to HAVE to do work every afternoon.
I hope that by focusing on my family and my writing, the rest of my world will fall into place. Or at least I will get a little more sleep.
PS. I didn’t finish this piece on time so I had to edit and format during N’s nap and E’s TV time. Also, I may be letting things go, but I’m also slowly looking for new freelance writing opportunities that align more with my career path. I am not perfect in my concern for family or time or sleep or work. I want it all. CAKE AND EATING! But I am willing to settle for the big purple rose and call it a night. Right after I finish this post.