Five Lame Things People Tell You About Blogging

I wrote the outline for this post a few months ago in a flash of annoyance. I don’t have much to say about why because drama is something I like to keep to the voices in my head. I will say that you did not inspire this post. {hug}

Five Lame Things People Tell You About Blogging:

1) I only write for me. (variation: I only blog for my children.)

Okay, why don’t you use a journal? Type on MS Word and save it on your hard drive? Make your blog private? (Speaking of which, a private blog has been sending me traffic. SHOW YOURSELF! Unless you are busy taking my advice, then HIGH FIVE!)  I’m pretty convinced that if you hit publish on a public blog, you want people to read it.  And if you’ve ever linked to it on Twitter or your Facebook page, you are looking for random strangers to read it.  By the way? There’s nothing wrong with that.

2) Content is king.

Of what? The Titanic? I’ve read some phenomenal blog posts that get two comments, and some terrible ones that get hundreds.  The Internet is vast.  The likelihood of an editor at Simon Schuster finding your best post during a random Google search is infinitely small. You need readers to find your content.  And then you need readers to tell their friends about your post.  So good content needs good readers.  Unless you’re all about #1 on this list, then I guess that you don’t need readers at all.

3) Blog promotion is lame.

The best part about this comment? It’s usually written on a blog forum with a link to the person’s blog.  I don’t understand why people aren’t proud (or aren’t supposed to be proud) of their writing.  We spend all this time writing and formatting and publishing, tweeting snark and pretending we aren’t on Facebook, why wouldn’t we promote our work? While I may not want to see 18 tweets a day about your post, 2-3 is great! How else am I going to find you?  And honestly, if you aren’t proud of your posts, why are your posting them?

4) Trolls are the worst part of the web.

I don’t know where y’all grew up, but trolls are all around us.  People say and do mean crap all the time.  Why is everyone shocked when someone does it on the World Wide Web?  And, of course, the complaint continues that the commenter was ANONYMOUS.  Well have you ever seen the horror that is disagreeing with certain bloggers?  Suddenly, the “troll’s” site fills with comment after comment of vitriol and hatred well beyond the initial comment.  I’d be anonymous, too!  (Just kidding. I’ve never commented anonymously. Instead, I write posts like these.)  I know that our blogs are our spaces, which we’ve loved and tended like gardens of beauty and feelings.  But it’s the Internet. Use delete.  Cry.  Get a hug.  And move on.  You get 99 positive comments a month!  A week!  A day!  Why aren’t those enough?

5) It’s MY blog.  If you don’t like it, stop reading it.

Are we just writing to have everyone say: Yippee you? And are we really RIGHT all the time?  I’m pretty sure needing everyone to agree with you, stay quiet or leave is the definition of dictatorship.  Healthy disagreement helps us grow.  Even a mean comment encourages me to become more understanding of others and their situations after I’m finished crying and ranting.  (The exception being threats to our personal safety and security, of course.)

We all wonder why we blog, why we care, why we comment. These are questions I’ve asked myself.  And don’t be afraid to disagree with me. I have no choice after this post…

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

99 thoughts to “Five Lame Things People Tell You About Blogging”

  1. Thank you for this! I think sometimes when I’m being lazy about my blog I think in my head “I’m only blogging for myself” – but obviously then I could just make it private. So it’s public for a reason. This will challenge me to think more about what the heck I’m doing.

    1. Oh definitely! I am teaching a class this semester called the Art of Blogging and I wanted to add I’M NOT AN EXPERT — I can just help you make less mistakes and write more consistently. I did say something to that effect on the first day. Just in case anyone thought I was going to make them famous.

  2. Bra-friggin’-vo.

    Thank you! I have to tell you, it’s as easy to get sucked into the five rules as it is to question whether or not letting your child eat seven fruit roll-ups consitutes child abuse. Or, at the very least, endangerment.

    I need to print this out and stick it to my moniter.

    Although then I wouldn’t be able to see to type.

    What I really, really need is a buzzer that will send an electronic shock through my system whenever I start to cave to the pressure of one of these “rules”. Last night? Rule #1. I caved to a self pity party brought on by a lack of wine and two sappy movies.

    Two REALLY sappy movies.

    1. It IS really easy to use them as excuses to not write or pick fights. I think that if people were less likely to use them as a reason to be nasty or self-righteous, well, I wouldn’t have written this post.

  3. Amen, sister!

    I didn’t market my blog at all when I first started it because I didn’t know if I was ready for readers. There are consequences to having readers. More readers = more consequences. That’s how it works!

    I hate when my very best writing doesn’t get the audience I hope for it, but that’s all on me. You’re absolutely right; content can’t be king. It just can’t. I’m a good writer (if I may say that here, and I think I can) and a mediocre marketer. If content was truly king, that mediocre marketing wouldn’t matter, but it does. My very middling traffic says it does!

    Crap. I wanted to say something else and then my husband called and I forgot.

    Oh, yeah, I remember! You know what’s really king? Controversy. Those of us who don’t get embroiled in every argument or bait readers by trying to make them mad have to work harder to be heard. That kind of bugs; I watch some bloggers (and I’m thinking of one A-list blogger in particular) work hard to make people angry in order to drive traffic. If you truly want to debate, then you’ll debate, not drop a hot post and then never participate in the conversation that follows!

    Ummm…oh. Enough from me? Yes, it is.

    1. This: “You know what’s really king? Controversy.”

      It’s so true. And frustrating.

      And I’m glad you DID market your blog enough so I could find it!

      PS. I wish that I was better at marketing, too. I keep calling SEO, CEO, which pretty much means I’m screwed.

      1. Opposing points of view make the best conversations. Unless someone demands to make it an argument. The opposite is true for blogs that are continual Love Fests. Boring.

  4. I do blog for me. I think we all blog for ourselves, actually, or we wouldn’t be doing it. My blog was private for a few years, and I loved it. But my (elderly) relatives hated it because they couldn’t figure out how to get to it, and every time they went to my site and got the “I’m sorry, you haven’t been invited to view this page” memo, they felt like I was reaching through their screen and slapping their face. Which I wasn’t, but anyway.

    The bloggers I love and follow the most are the ones who are very much themselves. They aren’t straining their keyboard to be heard, hoping for the world to notice them. They’re just content people… typing. I can read what they have to say all dang day, which -by the way -is the reason my laundry isn’t folded.
    And my Christmas decorations aren’t 100% put away.
    Gosh, I need to log off.

    1. You are one of the few people who I believe writes for herself (and her family somewhat).

      And I think you have a great point that we DO blog for ourselves and the love of blogging or writing because why else would we put all this time into it? I began and continue this blog for two main reasons 1) I love to write and 2) I believe that it helps people. Now would I also like to reach more people? Yes. But I think that’s the writer in me, too.

      I AM curious how you found blog that you feel are 0% marketed.

      And thanks for disagreeing. Seriously, it was kinda a relief. Not that I need 100 people hating me (trust me), but as I said, disagreement and discussion is really important to me. I like to think things through.

      1. I should have worded my post differently. I wasn’t disagreeing -sorry. The difference is this: you said “I only write for me.”
        I MOSTLY write for me but I don’t only write for me; otherwise, I would have kept my private blog private and shouted “BOLLOCKS!” to every relative who complained that they couldn’t log in. Also, I did have so many people ask for an invite to my private blog that I ran out of room and decided to bag the idea. While the only readers I do have are friends and family (I have a big family), they do make a point of telling me that they look forward to reading my blog everyday.
        I write for myself, yes. I write for myself because if I go a day without writing anything I feel like I haven’t done anything worth doing. Blogging makes writing easy, so I blog.
        But I also write for my friends and family who appreciate a little laugh or a little insight or a little whining, depending on whatever mood I’m in.
        Would it be nice to make money? Of course. We’re a one income family living in a rental that my father owns. I would love to contribute. Do I know how to DO that with blogging? Of course not. I’m a country girl who feels pretty good about the fact that I actually have a computer. AND the Internet.
        Anyway, my audience isn’t far-reaching, and I am 100% okay with that. I mostly write for me. Sometimes I don’t want to write for me, so I write for them.

        And you said something that confused me:
        “I AM curious how you found blog that you feel are 0% marketed.”

        I want to clear things up, but I don’t know exactly what you’re curious about… educate me. School me.

        1. When you said that you read blogs that are just content people, I thought you meant blogs with posts that are never tweeted or facebooked etc so I was curious how you found them. But I may have misunderstood your comment there too.
          My friend, Chara, who commented below writes for her and her family. We were trying to come up with a new term: flogger? fogger? any ideas?

  5. I agree 100% with number 5. I can not tell you how many times I have left a comment on a post that simply stated something different or a point the author didn’t make. Even though I’m being super respectful (and not actually disagreeing, just pointing something else out) I get hate! Why? I mean, I’m open to feed back, so everyone else should be too!
    “Healthy disagreement helps us grow” Yup. You said it.
    I love reading your posts!

    1. I cannot stand the way people are about #5. I understand the URGE to shore up our ranks and PROVE we’re right, but that’s why I always take a few minutes to hours to days before I respond or to even figure out if I NEED to respond. Because I WANT people to disagree and discuss and think and grow. Thanks for being one of those people on the Internets

      PS. It was hard to not write: And if someone’s mean to you, let me know and I’ll beat them up. HA! Not quite right…

    1. I mostly get trolls on OTHER sites that I’ve given permission to repost a piece. Although I did write a post on Late Enough where 50-75% of my readers disagreed with me. And everyone but maybe 1 or 2 were completely respectful. So I still bragged about the awesomeness of my readers to anyone who will listen!

      1. I am ALL ABOUT TROLLS. Seriously – people who apparently hate you but are gonna give you traffic and comments and still read your writing? There’s something weirdly awesome about that.

        Indifference? Now that pisses me off.

  6. I’ve never had a troll. I’ve had a few weird comments from strange people who I had never visited before, but I just try to roll with it. I like your 5 lame things, but I really never have marketed my blog. My partner, C, would like for me to market it so that she can live in the style to which she would like to become accustomed (lol, obviously) but I don’t know that people would really go for somebody who writes about prison, lesbians, and children!! 🙂

    1. I think rolling with it is the point. Like weird, mean and nice all happen in real life so it’s going to happen here too!

      What needs to happen for the sweet lifestyle is that C needs to take over marketing. Now you have someone WORKING FOR YOU. Holy crap, you’re already there!

  7. Alex, I agree with you. Blogging is a form of self-expression which folks do to get attention. And this is NOT a bad thing. I can’t believe that we are blogging about blogging, exciting!

    1. I like this: “Blogging is a form of self-expression which folks do to get attention. And this is NOT a bad thing”

      I try not to blog about blogging too much. It’s like naval-gazing with a magnifying glass — no matter how interesting what you find is, you just look strange doing it.

  8. Thank you for finally bringing up the troll thing- it’s something that has always kinda irked me….not only because I don’t get them. I mean chances are if you have a troll it’s because your getting a ton of traffic or you’ve written something contriversal enough to inspire debate,right?
    I don’t want a troll,though.

    1. you last sentence made me snort! It’s like with this post… I wanted to encourage disagreement but not like A LOT, you know? HAHAHA

      Yes, we pay a price for blogging. It seems not that bad all-in-all.

  9. It drives me completely nuts when people say they blog for themselves only. Yes, write what you want, don’t pander…I get that. I get that you want to express your own thoughts and ideas and not write what you think people want to read.
    But if you truly only wanted to ‘Write for yourself’ you would, indeed, keep a journal. You couldn’t be more spot on by saying that hitting publish means you want it read.

  10. Thank you for this post. I needed it to rid myself of the overwhelming feelings of narcissism I often get when blogging and trying to promote my blog. I needed it to remind myself that I’m damn proud of my writing and it gives me pride and joy and I WANT people to read it. I needed it confirm that my content doesn’t necessarily suck just because my posts rarely get comments; it just means I need to continue to promote my blog (again, not narcissistic) to drive traffic to it. So yeah… I need posts like this one to pull me out of my newbie blogger rut every now and then.

  11. I have used the “you don’t like it don’t read it”, early on. But when I look back I know I said that because I was scared. Scared that no one would read it or like it. My own personal stuff. I now see that the more I write the more I want people to read it, and they don’t have to like it or agree with me and thats ok.
    Love your post!

  12. I do think there’s something to the “I blog for me” concept. to a point. I blog, first, to make myself laugh. if I don’t like a post, I don’t publish it. if I pandered to readers all the time, it wouldn’t be genuine.

    I am an internet whore. and I love that. self-marketing is the only way to survive this world. and hell, I WANT to make money off my blog. nothing wrong with that.

    the whole troll thing- well as I’ve said, twitter has been the mean girl of my life. but it’s not people disagreeing with me; it’s people calling me a stupid dyke, etc. mean words are hurtful. end of story. and I just can’t pretend to be ok with that. so I write vitriolic blog posts as revenge. MAWAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA!


    1. So I don’t mean that I pander to my readers to get them to come. I meant it like people saying: “I post for me so I don’t care what anyone thinks or if they read it” but then goes on to ask everyone to read it.
      And I have a lot of posts where my husband reads the draft and say: um, it’s very YOU. And I think GREAT! and I do worry NO ONE WILL READ THIS OR LIKE IT. But I always hit publish anyway because if I’m not me on here what’s the point? This is the Alex you get in person too because that has always been my vision for my blog (although I’m a better storyteller in written words than in person).

      Now, the twitter thing: I think that blatantly mean comments or tweets can totally mean you can BLOCK the person. I don’t think that it’s OKAY to be mean to people. I just think that people’s self-righteous surprise is either naive or fabricated to get people to “defend” them. I think it’s okay to have our feelings hurt by it. But I also think that 1) the person could be having a bad day and it might be a fluke or 2) people can be mean

      And most people, it’s not the mean comments like you got a twitter. It’s just Oh, I don’t agree with you.

      I love the blog post revenge though — clearly.

  13. I’m relatively new to the blogging world, so I really enjoyed this list. There’s a lot of pretense in the blogging world, and your perspective is refreshing.

  14. Right on! I have been one to say that I started my blog a a virtual journal and baby book (’cause there ain’t no baby booking going on over here with twins and a bonus baby), so it was for me to update my peeps and keep my sanity. But when I considered making it private, I just couldn’t do it. I mean SOMEONE important is sure to stumble across it someday, right?

    Even after I got on Twitter and started communicating with other bloggers, it still took me a while to get up the guts to tweet out my posts. But I did, and once I saw my stats increase (you know, from 5 pv’s to 15), I got all giddy and it has all inspired me to improve.

  15. I love this post! Lately I’ve been doing a lot of personal venting on my blog and have wondered to myself why I make it public, and then I remind myself that the point of the blog is to allow the public in, to allow some random person halfway across the world to maybe stumble upon your writings and realize that they’re not alone. I also completely agree on the troll part; we can delete comments for a reason, and we can move on from it, learn from it, grow from it, there is no point in letting them dictate or control our personal writing!

  16. i was just having a huge argument with a friend that has started blogging, and every post he makes he prefaces with “this will probably piss you off, so if you’re easily offended go away.” all i get from that is he really doesn’t want people reading, or if they do read, doesn’t really want them commenting. which is crazy in my mind, b/c what’s the point of blogging then? which was kinda your #1 and #5 up there.

    the blog promotion thing i think ties into writing for yourself. like i do say that i write for myself, but i don’t really care if other people follow along, so i keep my blog public. and i have very nosy sisters, so it lets them keeps tabs on me and i avoid their calls, which is win-win in my book. but b/c i don’t really care if i have many readers, i don’t bother with promotion much. though yeah, i’m a hypocrite and have linked my blog in this comment, so maybe me talking about this is kind of pointless. maybe it’s just i’m too lazy to care? yeah, i’ll go with that.

  17. “Healthy disagreement helps us grow.”

    This. All five points are spot-on and are so common in blogs that it’s really annoying. Reading a post by someone that says they’re done writing for everyone else and they’re “going back to their roots” is especially annoying. It’s even more annoying because I fell into that trap once and posted one just like it. I write for my readers….because without them, I wouldn’t get sponsors or comments or any of the things I enjoy about blogging.

  18. You’re right on every point! I sometimes think I’m mainly blogging because I don’t have time to scrapbook. But, then the truth hits me. I blog because I wasn’t held enough as a baby.

  19. Q about No.1 then. What would you consider my blog? I guess I don’t write FOR my kids (come on, they can’t read). But I do write for our family and friends that live out of town. And since Riley was 6 mo. I realized I would never have the time nor desire to scrapbook again. I just print out the blog yearly and viola! Instant memories! So I guess my Q is, why isn’t that a valid excuse for just a family blog…or is there another cool name for what I’m doing now that there are cool blogs to give advice, direction, or to mix it up a bit on the internets a la yourself…

    1. So you are an exception to #1 and one of the few people who has a blog who truly is blogging for THEIR FAMILY and don’t use that as a guise to pretend they don’t care about readers or commenters. You don’t even link to your blog here! And remember when the random person commented and you were like: Go away! I don’t even KNOW you!

      Ha! So yes, you clearly blog as a way to keep in touch with friends and family who are far away and have no plans to take your blog to the public even though it IS public.

      PS. 2/3 people that I believe truly blog only for themselves and family have now commented. Perhaps #1 need to list y’all as exceptions…

      1. Too funny. Don’t make us angry Alex, you won’t like us when we’re angry! Hah! I was kinda hoping there was some fun hipster name to describe us, like FLOGGER for Family bLOGGER. Oh well. I don’t like knowing I’m an exception. Exceptional perhaps. :o)

  20. I sort of want to disagree with you just for the sake of variety, but I can’t. Dammit. So I’ll just point out that your socks don’t match…even if they do.

  21. Trolls… I’m curious about this creature. I don’t think I’ve experienced them on my blog.
    Now, there are some from the Upper Peninsula who call us trolls because live south of (under) the Mackinaw Bridge in Michigan. But I don’t think that’s the same thing!

  22. I’m so happy you wrote this! I love this post. Everything – every little bit of it is so true. I received ONE rude nasty comment via an anonymous reader. And I hated it. The reader was partly right and I corrected myself afterwards. But she (I’m assuming it was a she because of all the other accusations and the way it was written) was also so wrong about a lot of stuff which also made it obvious she wasn’t a regular reader of mine. Now if she had been open we could have engaged in a good conversation about what I said. If one thing is clear about me is that I’m not a queen and my blog is not where I reign. I am open and constantly show how I’m open to change and discussion and stuff.

    Now I have to sign out so I can repost where I disagree with you, but I need to be anonymous… heh heh heh.

  23. I’ve done it a few times, but I always feel like such a complete tool when I post a link on Twitter to a blog post I’ve written. Why the tool-esque feeling?–I don’t know. It feels like shameless self-promotion a la the interview question, “Why should we hire you?” I mean I want the job/people to read my blog, but I’d rather you figure that out on your own.

    But since I so don’t consider you all tools when you Tweet links to your blog posts, it seems like I might just need to get over it.

  24. I blog because I love writing. I absolutely, positively adore all of the attention my blog receives. I eat up every new comment. And I sleep and breathe statistics. I admit, I am obsessed.
    I haven’t had any negative comments as yet. I guess I’ll be suicidal when it happens. For a few minutes. Then I’ll eat some chocolate. Or some cake. Or both. Then I’ll go off and blog some more.
    Lastly, I have no idea what a troll is.

  25. Totally, completely & 100% agreed. I remember when I first got into this (not that long ago, really) I asked myself why I was doing it. I’ve tried to make it a rule to never fool myself about what my intentions are with my blogging.

  26. I was going to leave a comment but I went on and on and on. It then turned into a post on my blog. See what you started?

    PS: You, yeah you. Now you crick on link below. Crick now. Crick! Crick! Crick!

  27. I mostly agree.

    #5 is the one I have trouble with. Because although I think we should be able to disagree, sometimes comments are “You’re stupid and you’re writing sucks!” And at that point, I think “Then don’t read it!” is the right response.

    1. So I do agree if someone keeps writing that regularly, it’s okay to say GO AWAY. I think a lot of people do it to ANY disagreement — even respectful.
      And I think even a mean comment like your example once in a awhile would make me think 1) am i writing my best? 2) that person must be pretty miserable that they couldn’t say something kinder 3) the comment is so ridiculous why am I even upset
      Those thoughts are important to me because 1) I want to improve my writing 2) we are all mean to someone at some point and I could always use a little more growth in giving people room to be people even at their worst 3) why do I take things so personal?
      So yes, over and over again? I’d probably block the person. Once? I’d delete and cry and grow.

      1. I was just going to say exactly what Teresa said and I totally get your point.

        #5 is tricky with personal and/or parenting blogs. I’m don’t give advice. When I write about how I parent I’m not giving folks advice on how to parent their own kids and I’m not (usually) asking for their advice, even if there does happen to be a comment box at the bottom of the page. So when someone comments and says that they think I’m parenting wrong (specifically disagreeing with what I do and not just writing in about how they do it in a different way), I’m not super into it. I don’t need everyone to agree with me or do things the same way, but I also don’t need folks telling me that I’m raising my kids wrong. It’s so much my blog that’s sacred, as my life. (And of course it’s a different ball game if I’m asking for advice in the post.)

        But this has been really useful for me. I think I needed to question myself about that one because I certainly didn’t handle it well when it came up. Thank you!

  28. I love this post because I read advise all the time and often find myself disagreeing with it. I thought it was me just being defensive but maybe I was on the right track afterall. I sometimes find there are blog bullies just like in real life!

  29. ahhhh… I always try to downplay the whole ‘blog’ thing to my non-blogging friends. They have NO idea how much time it takes or how much I enjoy it.

    I really do enjoy it and while I do write for myself- I also write so people can read it- and comment on it. I’m not going to sit and pretend I don’t want anyone to read it.

  30. Yesterday, a semi famous comedian who lives in Ireland but travels the world found my Bill Hicks post. He tweets me and we start talking about Hicks, comedy, music, and general cool stuff. You think he would have found me or found me interesting enough to comment and tweet if I followed those fives rules? Heck no.

    If anything I reject those five rules and write to find an audience that loves and hates what they read.

    Good post, ma’am

  31. I enjoyed this! It made me think about why I do this whole blogging thing.

    I would say that I do it for myself…partially because I don’t do it frequently enough to really gain massive readership, partially because I’m too lazy to aggressively market it.

    But, I like having my 7 readers. I like the dialogue. I like feeling like I’m not alone out there. And if I never get comments? I’m bummed. I’ve freely admitted I’m a comment whore. I just don’t work too hard to solicit said comments.

    The whole process is for me, from writing to reading/responding to comments. However, what I write? Totally me. I suck at pandering. Even if I wanted to? I so suck at it.

    And can I say…the content point. OMG. There are some damn mediocre blogs out there that have massive numbers of followers and sponsorship. I find that way annoying. Not because I believe my “content” is particularly superior…I’m very average, really. But because I hate to see crap SO celebrated when real quality goes unnoticed. It’s just annoying.

  32. great post. all so true. i hate when people complain about being “spammed” in facebook or twitter feeds….? isn’t the definition of spam unsolicited? didn’t you “like” or “follow” each person/companies stuff you see?? then its not spam. if you don’t like it use the unfollow button and quit bitchin’

  33. Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes. Honesty is so refreshing, isn’t it? I’m actually looking forward to getting my first troll – I will regard it as a sign that I have “made it.” And I will publicize that fact proudly.

  34. I think you could easily do a new post that is titled: 5 MORE Lame Things People Tell You About Blogging. I mean you are on a roll, don’t just stop at these 5. It was just getting really good.

    1. I don’t know. The more I blog about blogging, the more likely I am to end up on my own list.

      But maybe I could do Five Lames Thing People Tell You About All SORTS of stuff… Now that list is endless. As are my opinions!

  35. LOVE this Alex!

    I kind of roll my eyes a bit at people who publicly blog, join blog communities, hop around to a ton of other blogs, have a FB page and tweet all the time…who say it’s just for themselves. If it was, they wouldn’t be doing any of the above listed things!

    I’m Stumbling and Digg-ing this!

  36. I started blogging because I enjoy writing. And to get the stuff out of my head so I stop talking to myself. Wait. Did I just say that out loud? Anyway. After publishing my first post and waiting for some kind of response, I figured out that A) I need to get over my fear of #3 on your list and feeling like a comment whore and B) I need to do it sooner rather than later. I wanted to get a few posts under my belt before announcing each post 3x on Twitter, but hey, I know what my timeline looks like…I know I don’t catch everyone’s tweets, either. So probably not many people will notice that I’m promoting my blog post multiple times. And, if they don’t like it, they can see #5….and unfollow me.

  37. I love this list. Though I have to admit, I’m mildly guilty of the last one. Though it’s usually in a “well then why don’t you MARRY it,” joking kind of way, so maybe that’s ok too.

    Great post!

  38. Ouch. I’m guilty of saying #1!

    When I first started blogging in 2005, I used it as a way to keep up with friends and family across the country. I found it easier to blog than to keep a baby book for my kids. At that point, I wasn’t concerned with getting readers, just recording fun things that the kids did or said. I started out on Livejournal because one of my best friends from high school was also on there and she taught me how to use it. I like the privacy features and will frequently set posts to “just me”.

    Within the last year or so, however, I’ve become more interested in getting readers and connecting with people. In a former life (read: before kids), I was a singer, performer and a comedy writer. I find that writing posts is just a different way to perform for an audience. It scratches an itch that has been bothering me for . . . how old is my oldest? Eleven years. It’s a huge blessing!

    I will say that I tweet mainly for me – to remind me of silly things the kids did/said and as seeds for future posts. Fortunately, I have been getting a Twitter following that I hope to convert to a blog following. 😉 Marketing!!!

    So . . . this is a long comment. Perhaps it should have been a blog post?

  39. I love this post! I am somewhat of a new blogger, and I just recently had my first mean Troll visit my sight. It hurt, and I reacted just as you mentioned, but I also did the whole, if you don’t like it don’t read it! But you are right about that part too. It still sucks though. It’s hard to be anonymously personally attacked. Love this post! 🙂

  40. A few weeks ago I read several articles on being a better blogger. Since I’m just trying out the personal writing thing recently, I studied these articles and then realized that I wasn’t going to live up to them. I’m glad to read that those “rules” are just B.S. I figured they were but being new, I wanted to get a feel. I always wonder why people write what they do. In my situation, I keep seeing my life go from one end of the spectrum to the other and I feel the want to publicly document these happenings so maybe they can be seen from my perspective. I’m pretty sure people around me see my life much differently than I do. Anyway….. I enjoyed this post. 🙂

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