Be Yourself. Unless You Suck.

Be Yourself. Unless You Suck.

Sometimes, instead of getting more comfortable with who we are, we are getting more comfortable with what we won’t change.


And to this I say:

Be Yourself. Unless You Suck.
Thanks for the card, K. This made me think of me, too! Wait, what?

Sometimes, our best sucks. It’s mean and low and angry.

Or rude and ignorant and clique-y.

Most of the time, it’s just odd and should be checked out by a doctor.

I met a mom in my son’s school last year. She seemed nice for the first ten minutes of our conversation. Then I realized that I HAD NOT SPOKEN A WORD.

So I tried to say something. Probably along the lines of: Well, I think…


Admittedly, my voice was rusty due to the extraordinary long period of disuse. So I tried again.

And again.

And again.

I finally said: Where did you used to work?

And she finally acknowledged me and answered.

I discovered an important rule of the conversation: I was allowed to talk if I ask about her.


Since our first chat, she doesn’t even say hi to me.

Maybe she found herself boring.

Here’s my proposal: Stop being yourself. And starting being better.

I’m in.

Although WTH will I blog about?

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

24 thoughts to “Be Yourself. Unless You Suck.”

  1. Don’t change! Or do. I guess I haven’t met you in real life so cannot accurately determine whether you suck.

    But I’m pretty sure you don’t.

    Unless this is all some ruse and you’re secretly Osama.

    Which would be pretty freaking impressive.

    But still bad.

  2. I can NOT STAND it when that is an excuse, “Well it’s just who I am.” ARGH! Fires me up. LOVE this post.

    On a side note. When I first typed this I accidentally wrote, I can not stank it. Hahahahaha. Sorry. Had to share. You are so lucky.

  3. That Osama comment cracked me up.

    Sometimes I don’t feel like I know all the parts about myself that might need changing. Like, *more* bad habits are waiting to disclose themself once I’m probably too old to care.

    1. I feel like that too. Im all: I don’t gossip anymore. And then some other bad habit pops up and I’m all like EW! The best we can all be is human. I think wanting to grow without making perfect our ideal.
      Darn it, I just got all serious and stuff!

  4. My MIL says “I’m just being me” all the time when she says something that might not be so great. She really is into the whole being herself thing. I keep telling the hubs that if that is who she is, I don’t want to be around her. Seriously. You don’t get to say and do whatever you want, and have NO consequences because you said you were just being you.

    I feel better.

  5. I’m gonna get better at complaining. I think I’m already pretty good at it, but I’m sure I have room for improvement 😉


    And that card? Fantastic!

  6. Good Timing! I was just saying to myself: Pretend you are on a reality show (on camera all the time) – be the best person in front of other people you can be. I told myself this because I am sick of hearing myself yell at the kids to clean up their messes – it doesn’t work anyway, so I may as well try to relax and be the best I can.

  7. I think she already told you all about herself so now she is busy looking for someone else to enlighten with her greatness. She simply doesn’t have time to slow down to say hello. So many people and so little time.

    At least you don’t have to listen to her anymore. Lucky you!

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