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The Only People That Read This Blog Post Were My Sister And The Schmoo

I’m still at BlogHer ’10 so I’ve decided to revisit a post from back when two people read my blog (and my husband didn’t).

Positive Reinforcement

I worry (SURPRISE!) about E and N’s relationship.  My attempts to encourage sibling love (or less sibling rivalry) center around not correcting E every time he interacts with his baby sister.  Because who wants to hang out with the person that you’re always DOING IT WRONG around?  (Unless you have that masochistic, insecure streak, and I, at the very least, hope to not foster THAT in my children.)

I mention this offhandedly to my pediatrician (no, not my husband. our actual PEDIATRICIAN) and he says, equally offhandedly: For every reprimand or correction, a child needs 2-3 positive comments.

And now I’m obsessed.

Okay, what number am I on?  Oh no! I need 16 positive comments, it’s only 9 a.m., and I still need to dissuade E from using N’s head as a trampoline for his small metal cars.

E, sweetie, you are doing such a good job IGNORING ME.

Wow, you are quick on your feet.

You are also VERY strong.

And your aim is QUITE accurate.

Thank you for getting me a towel to clean up the BLOOD.

Hey, I get it. 19 people say I’m doing a great job.  The 20th calls me an idiot.  And now I need 19 more people to convince me that I’M OKAY.

I recently had gum surgery (as if you didn’t know with my 27 status updates, tweets, and a blog post complete with pictures).  And MONTHS ago, the doctor recommends an electric toothbrush.  Well, I’ve tried these newfangled thingymabobbers before and I am NOT a fan.  So I ignore the advice.

But I HAPPEN to mention it to my hubby who leaves it alone for the past several months.  In fact, he leaves it alone until last week, when I also happen to mention that I’m supposed to have gum surgery AGAIN. (Gee, how’d THAT slip my mind?)  I’m not sure if I’m a very bad patient or he just doesn’t want a toothless wife in 10 years, because that VERY night, he picks up a fancy electric toothbrush.  With a fancy wireless display that you attach to the mirror.

I tease him about the sheer ridiculousness of the toothbrush with lights and timers and blinky things.  I think aloud: this’ll last a four days.  Until the display smiles at me.

I brush my teeth for two minutes, broken down into thirty seconds intervals, and I get the SMILEY FACE!  I get the GO ALEX!  You brushed your teeth correctly for the first time in 31 years!  YAY!

And now, all I want is that SMILE.  Even though there is a section of my mouth that I cannot even brush (don’t worry the prescription mouth wash they gave me can kill a small bird as well as all the bacteria that cause bad breath), I still go for two minutes.  Twice a day.  And take pictures.

It did occur to me that I could just leave the toothbrush on after I’m done and still get the smiley face.

But that’s not very honest.  Mostly just pathetic.

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

8 thoughts to “The Only People That Read This Blog Post Were My Sister And The Schmoo”

  1. I laughed. Out loud. Not easy before the second cup of coffee.

    I gave up on counting positive comments somewhere around the time the kids discovered Power Rangers and my second threw my third out of a plate glass window (I don’t think the two were causally related, just temporally. But I don’t have a study or anything).

    Drill sergeants are not required to hand out compliments.

    We had to settle for those small expressions of love and support that mothers do regularly, without having to search their brains for nice things to say (usually after counting to 10).

    They turned out okay. I think. So far.

    And if they don’t, I’m going to blame the psychotic genes from hubby’s side of the family, not my parenting style.

  2. 2 regular readers is still better than none. 🙂

    My kiddo is only 13 months old and I worry about saying “NO” too much, can’t imagine when he’s older and I NEED to say “NO” more often.

  3. First, I’m jealous that you’re at BlogHer. Second, I still have only two people who read my blog. Except for that one post the other day where I felt very important. Third, I kind of love my electric toothbrush. And lastly – positive reinforcement! – I’m so glad I stopped by. Love your voice.

  4. What? You don’t like your electric toothbrush? I love mine!

    And I remember when only a couple of people read my blog too. I’m glad more people read it now, but it’s a lot more work isn’t it?!

  5. you realize you just called me and all your readers a schmoo?

    anyways, hope you are having fun at blogher, I’m too busy celebrating my birthmonth (it started as as birthday, grew into birthweek, and go figure)

    anywya, I like that one to three ratio, makes sense to me. will start the maths tomorrow.

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