Comments on: My Son, Revisited

By: Paula Stansky

Paula Stansky — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 14:25:45 +0000

Hang in there. TIME is acure for everything. Be patient, be gentle, love your son. You’ll look back on this and sigh a big sigh. I know I do. Motherhood is the hardest job in the world, and only we know it.

By: Learning To Help My Son | Late Enough

Learning To Help My Son | Late Enough — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 04:08:29 +0000

[...] But after I read a post about a mom struggling with tantrums that break her, I realized that continuing the story is important. Had I believed that I was alone, I don’t know if I would’ve had the strength to do what E needed. [...]

By: Late Enough

Late Enough — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:29:14 +0000

I felt so much better when you listed that you cry and tell and are sometimes short-fused. I have this vision that I can NEVER break down like that. And then I do and I’m embarrassed. But it really is embarrassed TO BE HUMAN!

And I bounce back like you. I think that I need to focus on THAT part more.

And the safe place to have feelings IS key. Thank you.

By: Late Enough

Late Enough — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:26:39 +0000

I really appreciate you relating on the emotional level — I try to have the practical response but all these FEELINGS sometimes get in the way. It’s hard to maintain that ALL DAY.

I hope that he grows out of it as well. Thank you.

By: Late Enough

Late Enough — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:24:32 +0000

HAHA!! I loved the Cali comment. I KNEW I should move!

And I really like what your therapist shared. Thank you so much for your kind words and support.

By: Late Enough

Late Enough — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 02:23:03 +0000

Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your experience with your son. We are still waiting to find out more from the feelings doctor as to her thinking about what’s going on and the cause. And we will be mindful of your suggestion.

Regardless, my heart goes out to your son and his early experiences with abuse. I wish much peace back to you.

By: mandy

mandy — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 02:54:43 +0000

I feel for you and can relate to what you’re going through.

Reading about your son sounds just like my son who has post-traumatic stress disorder from being abused. Is there anything that could have been traumatic to your son in his life? Its common for young kids with PTSD to be misdiagnosed or labeled as being defiant or having ADHD. I thought my son’s outbursts were behavioral issues, but now that I know they are symptoms/side effects I can use the right techniques to help stop it. Things are still a struggle because there are a lot of things that trigger him, but it does become easier over time.

I hope this helps in some way and that you find some peace :)

By: Allison @ Alli 'n Son

Allison @ Alli 'n Son — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 02:12:35 +0000

TeDious, thank you so much for your reply. I can’t image what you are going through, it must be so hard to want a child so badly, but to know deep down that it isn’t a wise decision. Yes, it is a million times harder watching your child in pain, than being in pain yourself. {hugs} to you for making this hard decision.

By: Christine LaRocque

Christine LaRocque — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:36:12 +0000

It’s just all so bloody hard. Honestly we’re struggling with our own 4-year-old battles. And frankly 17-month-old battles. I have nothing to offer because I can’t figure out my own kids. Really, I’m with you. They can be our undoing. I’m also with you because I’m moody and sometimes I worry that my emotions are a model too. But then I remind myself that I’m human and they are part of me and what they learn from me in the way of coping will go a long way. I cry, I yell, I’m sometimes short fused, I get frustrated, I shake my head sometimes in total defeat. And then I bounce back however I can. And that’s the lesson I think.

Also, I read somewhere once (I hate parenting books, but sometimes I read snippets that speak to me) that they are feeling emotions that they don’t have the skills to cope with. So sometimes just giving them a safe place to feel them, and knowing that you will love them no matter what, is really all they need.

By: WTH am I Doing

WTH am I Doing — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:04:01 +0000

It’s always tough to feel out of control with your kid. I really don’t like that feeling. At all. Because naturally, if I were in *control* everything would be ok. Yeah. Still, control makes me feel better!

I also totally know where you’re at with the emotional thing. I try, very hard, to keep my feelings in check. To respond to things practically. But that doesn’t always work so well. I worry about the example I set for my kids. Sometimes I see them do things? And I know they got it from me. *sigh*

Good luck with finding some answers. Hopefully he will just grow out of this & all will be well.