My First Bloggy Award Has The Word FRIEND In It

I got my first bloggy award.

Why? Because I told a fellow blogger, who was visited by insecure (MEAN) commenters, this:

UGH!! Sometimes I hate people.

Even when people have disagreed with me on my blog, if they do it with respect, it’s fine. And I try to do the same for other blogs. It’s called human decency.

People who comment just to be mean are reflecting their own insecurities. I mean if they felt okay about themselves, they wouldn’t NEED to let you know what they “really think.” It’s pathetic.

You, my friend, are NOT pathetic. Don’t stop blogging. I’d miss you.

Which was easy. BEING NICE IS EASY, PEOPLE. Even for a grump like me.

Although, in reality, being mean is easier. Because we get to feel cool. And important. And OH SO SUPERIOR. But only for a millisecond. Then we need to find someone new to pick on. And they do! This is not an isolated incident. Did you watch the Today’s Show yesterday? Check out the video at the link on bloggy moms talking about the MEANIES, but also talking about the wonderful community of caring.

However, I am SO good at actively ignoring people that I’m not too worried. And I have too many cool people who have my back. Yay me! ย And YOU! ย KAPOW!

Alex Iwashyna

Alex Iwashyna went from a B.A. in philosophy to an M.D. to a SAHM, poet and writer by 30. She spends most of her writing time on, a humor blog (except when it's serious) about her husband fighting zombies, awkward attempts at friendship, and dancing like everyone is watching. She also has a soft spot for culture, politics, and rude Southern people who offend her Yankee sensibilities. She parents 2 elementary-aged children, 1 foster baby, 3 cats, and 1 puppy, who are all Southern but not rude. Yet.

18 thoughts to “My First Bloggy Award Has The Word FRIEND In It”

  1. Kapow is right. I'm going to use that word all day today. (I'd give you an award, too, if I had one to give. Last award I got was a few months ago before I met you.)

  2. Thank you for the shout out!! Truly, you were so kind, that award was intended for the love you sent my way.

    I loved the Today show link on the “meanies.” Very interesting. People blog to be there, and to know they're not alone. And mean comments are just a drop in the bucket compared to the love that is out there. Thank you for all the info.

    How astounding is it that I didn't even know you a month ago???

  3. Thank goodness for comment moderation. If someone leaves a mean comment, I can go in and erase it all and change the wording up to say something like, “You're bloody brilliant.” It never pays to be mean, and really… what is anyone getting out of being a jerk? Satisfaction? I guess in some cases that's true. Which is just pathetic.

  4. Stopping by from The Empress – you are so right. The best thing to do with people like this is to ignore them, because what they thrive on is the reaction. So if we give them nothing then eventually they might just crawl back to the hole they came from. Thankfully they are a rarity in the blogging world which is filled with so many wonderful people, like you, supporting another great blogging friend in her hour of need. Love your blog by the way!

  5. Thanks for your comment, stopping by, and OF COURSE, loving my blog ๐Ÿ˜€
    And I agree that a reaction is what people like that are looking for. And it is nice that most of the bloggy world is kind. Or at least neutral ๐Ÿ˜‰

  6. Congratulations on your award! And thanks for sharing the links. I agree, it is SO EASY to be nice, and the trolls really just want attention. I hate that many of the times I read Motherlode on the New York Times I feel yuck. I think that you are such a supportive blogger/reader (I think you were my first cyberworld friend!). I was honestly scared of launching into cyperspace but I have been amazed at how wonderful it's been – I have met wonderful new moms and even reconnected with an old friend.

  7. On my FAMILY blog, the thing I basically have to keep family in the loop and then print for scrapbooking, some woman by the name of Grizzly Mama (or something like that) lectured me about having Riley on a schedule. Apparently she didn't agree with it and thought my family blog was the right forum to make a snarky comment and give advice. I don't even KNOW her.

  8. Oh my goodness, Motherlode is OUT OF CONTROL. And I thought that I was opinionated!
    Thank you for your kind words. And you, my cyber-friend, are one of the people who made me want to keep blogging even when I did not want to keep blogging. Because you are so honest and open. And I figured even if you and I just read each other's blogs, it would be worth it ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Anyone named Grizzly Mama can NOT be taken seriously. I mean I just can't help but picture her with a beard and an ax… clearly letting her kids run amuck. And having NO idea when bedtime is going to be. CRAZINESS!

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