I thought that God would give us only girls. We are feminists. S was apart of an anti-sexual assault group throughout college and medical school. I am always fighting against the old boys club (which is probably why I couldn’t get along with ANYONE during my surgery rotation). We are GIRL parents.
But at our first 20 week ultrasound, there was a penis. And E was born 19 weeks later. (Already such a good boy — arriving six days early!)
So now I have this little boy to nurture and grow. A boy that I worry about as much as I worry about my girl. And from a WHO-CARES-ABOUT-WHITE-MEN woman, it’s quite a surprise to me.
My biggest fear (which is not unique to me) is E learning to be someone he’s not:
Pink is a GIRL color.
Boys don’t have BABY DOLLS.
Isn’t that TUTU for your sister?
So when we discovered E’s love of tassels on the end of bike handles, my wonderful husband bought him a set. And when my husband gave the sparkly flower tassels to E, my son said with joy: I love them so much! Thank you, Dada!
So maybe God gave us a boy so he could just be any kid he wants to be… for just a little longer….
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so cute- i think we have pictures of every boy in our extended family in a skirt or a dress.
Boy or girl, it's the sign of a good parent who encourages a child to have their own tastes, to pursue what makes them happy. Like letting my girl wear pink (AKA “the color of oppression” from my childhood). And good daddies cry.
I totally agree. The only time my son got in trouble this year was when he broke all the pink crayons at his table. Why? Because the girls made fun of him when he said he liked pink. So we have had many conversations telling him that he can like WHATEVER colors he likes. My youngest carries around a bright pink Dora doll. We get stares, but who cares. He loves her (and she loves him, or so her recording says). Tired tired tired of gender stereotyping. let people be people whoever they are.
I actually realized a few years ago that I loved pink. And could still
be a feminist!
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That's awesome!! (and I'm looking forward to that blog post ;)
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Alex Iwashyna
http://www.lateenough.com
Here here!!
What a handsome little man.
I love that you are letting him be just who he is.
I confess, I may huff at the “pink” and “girlie” but I do enjoy playing dress up with my girl. If not now then when? She most certainly won't let me have a single opinion once she has hers, of that I'm certain. Here's the link: http://www.herewhereihavelanded.com/2010/03/and…
Your posts are uber AWESOME =) makes me smile :D
I love this post, it is something we deal with regularly. My oldest loves my high heel shoes, to cook, play dress up, and play in my makeup. I figure why not. When my youngest was a boy, I too cried because I never felt I was a “mom of boys” but it turns out, I pride myself in being “a mom of boys”. Thanks for the reminder that real men wear pink. :)
isn't it funny how we get what we need (even when we don't realize that we
will be good at it!) — and i love that you let your sons be themselves!
YAY!! Thank you!
Thanks! I'm glad, too :D
At 17, 6'2″, 200lbs, my boy, who had a baby doll of his own, still loves pink. And sparkle. And hugs. And his mom. He'd rather play music than sports and can even belt a killer Barry Manilow. His girlfriend of two years loves how sensitive he is, and so do I.
E sounds awesome and so do you guys for letting him be uniquely him.
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